- Because self-discipline feels good–eventually
- Because there are better reasons to buy shoes
- To avoid blisters and hoarding
- To stop and smell the roses (literally–find a rose bush in bloom and smell the scent–it won’t be around long)
- To let others go (figuratively–let them leave, grow, explore, move on)
- So that you can go in another direction without crashing
- Because it’s for your safety (figuratively again; when we really listen to our internal stop signs we protect ourselves from all kinds of bad things)
- Because it’s for your safety (don’t be that person who is walking and reading email and falls into an open manhole)
- Because crashing your car is expensive
- Because cops are around, cameras are around, and people will tattle on you
I know I am a quitter — I never finished my 100 pairs of shoes blog. I could have slogged on, I could have ignored the fact that I had only one or maybe two readers. But let’s face it, seeing crazy shoes that other people are wearing is just not as fun as seeing new shoes that we could be buying!
New shoes, buying shoes, collecting shoes, Imelda Marcosing. I don’t know exactly when I allowed myself to start going crazy over shoes — I do remember when I didn’t allow myself to purchase in excess. So, as the Byrds sang, and Solomon wrote, to every season…
A season to buy, a season to obstain. A season to wear sky high stilettos, a season to wear Dansko clogs. Here’s to a new and improved shoe buyer, shoe lover. One who buys the Goldilocks amount of shoes!
Why the change? Is it dreaded middle age? Is it bunyons, corns, or nerve damage? Why, why, oh why?
Well, self, I’ll tell you. Because at the age of XX, it’s time to grow up. Time to embrace maturity in its best sense. Time to –well–help two out of three offspring get through college. So here is the list that will help you get through this new unshoeing stage:
- Other women don’t buy a pair of shoes every week, you don’t need to either.
- You have almost 200 pairs of shoes, surely you can find one pair to go with that outfit.
- You don’t go to charity balls or cocktail parties on a regular basis, so you don’t need to “stock up” on satin Louboutins.
- People who judge you primarily on your shoes aren’t that interesting — but people who strike up a conversation over your shoes and move on are.
- Your feet are more than shoe stuffers.
- The money you save can feed a child in your city.
- The money you save can fund a plane ticket to Hawaii–to visit your University going child.
- You can buy more shoes next year.
- Boots count as shoes.
- You have shoes or boots that you still haven’t worn yet.
Keep focused and stay out of the shoe department!
Pair no. 35: These flashy sandals were on on a Valhallan woman in Denver, she was tall and not one to be trifled with — long blonde Wagnerian hair, big truly blue eyes, and had the strength of a man. BEAUTY comes in every shape and size and this woman was impressive! Plus, you can’t argue with flashy 4″ heels on a woman who is already 5’10” tall in her bare toes. I love seeing other tall women wearing heels and stomping on the world. It just reminds me that I won’t be wearing heels forever…I broke down and bought a pair of Dansko clogs to facilitate training…well, I’ll wear them at least one day a week. I can’t say goodbye to heels just yet…I’m not old enough!
Pair no. 9: This woman thought that I only asked her The Question because of her tatoos. At the time I was almost insulted — I mean, I was truly interested in her shoes. But now that I look at the picture — she’s right. Her ink is crazy wonderful in a way that not many women can pull off. I told her that her tatoos “were amazing” in that way that sounds like I am gushing. But honestly, they were fantastic on her! She started to tell me her story. “I was 19.” Her eyes said, “if I’d only known then what I know now” — I told her that I was “too chicken to get inked.” I would always be too chicken and that “I love to see other people’s tatoos. I get to live vicariously for a moment while I am looking at their body art.” She looked into my eyes in that deep and discerning way and I looked back. I feel like we “got” each other and that we understood that a yin-yang, two opposite sides of the coin thing is good.
I am loving this project, meeting new people, and realizing that people are amazing.